Personal Conflict and Group Conflict Resolution

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HILARION: So, a question arises of course, as to what do you do when you are in conflict with someone? We would suggest a slightly different way of looking at it. What is the best path for this person to discover love in our shared space? You could say to awaken love in that person but perhaps that is too much to ask for, rather simply to discover that love in your shared space. For this, we do not recommend any of the old methods. They are very good. They have benefits and some people are familiar with them. Simply recognize that love is about connecting and about people being closer to each other.

There are many aspects to this, but the law of love is connectedness because everything is connected to everything. It is love that is doing this so, when you are in conflict you ask somewhere inside, you ask, “what is it that, this person wants to be “gotten” on?” That is a very new way of saying it isn’t it? 

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To “get gotten,” is a very odd phrase and it doesn’t translate very well to other languages but you will find it and the important part of that is in this way you will find something you can say to lower the level of anxiety and difficulty to allow that person to speak the truth. When you do this, you may think what it’s going to do in making that love space more available is to solve the problem, but no. If there is this emotion that has been buried and you are now saying by the love you have created, it is safe for you to have that, it is going to come out, so be ready for it and find a way to not take it personally. Find a way to understand and to “get gotten,” and to receive and mirror and attune to what they are saying and the truth of their being as it relates to your being. 

Oftentimes, what you do when you are in such a process, when it is with those you are already close to, not just those you are already in conflict with and you are not just trying to get through things but really connect and really love that you do ultimately confront fear. 

Fear has been called, “False Evidence Appearing Real,” and the false evidence may be something you are afraid of and have been afraid of in many lifetimes. Some have proposed fear of death as the ultimate fear but that’s not true for everyone. Indeed, that is very much a fear that is based in many lifetimes of religious thought that you are afraid of going to hell or you are afraid of what happens on the other side when you die or you are afraid because you do not believe in any religion and you know it is just the end. 

But, in Buddhism there is the innate recognition of lifetimes upon lifetimes, upon lifetimes and the ultimate manifestation is the release, the moving in whatever state, aliveness or death into a place of enlightenment where there is no more being born, no more creating on the karmic wheel the same problems you have had over and over again. For some, the innate fear is of being powerful and an influence on others because of the responsibility it takes. But, we would have to say that even when you get down to those fears what you come to is the fear of existence itself. 

That is why the ultimate manifestation of consciousness as it is often described by the most enlightened beings on the planet and off of your planet and the guides of our guides is, “I Am.” 

This is simply the acknowledgement of existence itself. So, sometimes you can reduce fear and you can move to a place of just beingness with those simple words, with remembering the words, “I AM.” This is not so easy, of course, when you don’t know who you are and you don’t know what that means. But, it is that which you have contemplated previously and that is frequently thought about by your guides and helpers so it is still an important key.

Notice here we are speaking from a place of solutions so the questions that have been asked are very much about things like, “when will we get over this or are we truly stuck in places of fear or conflict or difficulty? But, we would remind you that prediction is not what it used to be but prediction still is that which depends on certain factors that relate very much to your consciousness which to some extent you relate to prediction. 

So, we must avoid self-fulfilling prophecies. If we tell you, “humanity is destined to struggle with this vey issue until the bitter dying end of the cinders of planet earth destroyed by a nuclear war started in Ukraine and the difficulties on your planet of pollution and the inequality drummed into the very ultimate so that only a few survive in fallout shelters across your planet. It is a reality you have seen in your nightmares. 

It is a possible reality for humanity and it is a reality that draws closer each passing day. If that is what we suggested is the likely scenario you would most likely try a little harder to find love and to find compassion for others and to find a way to love planet earth a little more than we would be doing a “good thing” by telling you such nonsense. 

Still though, it is important to recognize that humanity does collectively hold the key to such and you can look at this simple barometer like a gas gauge. How far up along the scale from 0-10 is peace? And ultimate peace as the two ends to this and see that humanity has crept up a little in fear since the last opportunity we had to speak through this vehicle. This is partly to do with war and seeing it concentrated in a single country as other countries line up and contribute their weapons, their money and ultimately perhaps, their own people into this war. 

As they choose sides it becomes more and more difficult to see how to get out of it. The guides and helpers are very concerned about this as it seems an obvious potential path to cause great destruction and great disharmony all over your planet. It doesn’t take much as you are quite aware, nuclear power plants exist in Ukraine and with their destruction, the spreading of nuclear radiation would be inevitable.  

So, over and over people are starting to question this and that is the underlying reason that this is being allowed to go on and on. That they are asking the deeper questions about loving their fellow humans across the border between Russia and Ukraine. It goes both ways.

After all they have done to them, can the Ukrainians love the Russians? And of course, how difficult it is with the propaganda, with the continuous riling up of anger and fear and hatred making it difficult for the Russians to love the Ukrainians? It is absurd when looked at from the outside since they have such a long standing common ancestry and so many ways in which flow between the two countries has taken place in the past and so many ways in which it is possible to find friendship. 

That is one solution that is being worked out on the other side. It has nothing to do with armies and assassinations and various countries getting involved. So, that is a plan that is coming into the consciousness of the Russians and the Ukrainians. Can you have some of this with the people across your borders? Can you have this with some of the people in your neighborhood? But, Hilarion, “how can I accept the viewpoint of another if it is so harmful to the world and so difficult and that which is so diametrically opposed to mine? Mine makes more sense because it is a way of greater freedom, greater love. "

Do not be stuck in your own way of seeing things. See someone else’s point of view and find a way for them to be “gotten” even though you disagree. Find agreement about some things such as about being alive and about having a place to live, about having enough food to eat and the welfare and benefit of the children. Whatever areas you can find common ground is so important.

March 21, 2023

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